When people are introduced to a new strategy to up their success, oftentimes they think it won’t work on them, and for good reason. Nothing to that point has really worked. So why should they believe the new thing is going to work? The concepts behind the Think It Be It program and the 12 minutes a day methodology are based on science, and the fact is they can work on anyone!

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how to have a great romantic relationship by rewiring your autopilot. So the right actions happen automatically without thinking. During this podcast they talk about some key behaviors that create a great romantic relationship. Such as having a weekly relationship talk with your spouse. How to make yourself “flexible, patient, and thoughtful” automatically without thinking.

In this episode John and Kelly talk about how important it is to be organized if you’re a high achiever. John and Kelly have developed an organizational system (daily to do form and weekly to do form) that they think is great. There’s three components to the system. You plan your day the night before, you time block your day, and you identify your top three priorities each day. The key is to have a great system. Using their daily to do form, the template lines out each day by every half hour. To do’s are scheduled at a specific time. Then a person identifies their top three priorities for the day and highlights those priorities on the form.

In this episode, let’s revisit the episode, “The $5 Million Secret – How to Rewire Your Autopilot”. Do you think you can change your outcomes in life and success with just 12 minutes a day? John and Kelly are here to tell you that you can. Most people perceive that they control their daily actions, but they don’t. They only control their intentions. It is this conflict between conscious and sub-conscious thoughts that limit the ability to truly leverage yourself to success.

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the impact of self talk. John recently got back from visiting in person with the mental coach for the USC football team. His name is Tim Kight. He’s probably the top sports psychologist in the country. In our last episode John explained one of Tim Kight’s concepts. That an event happens, then there’s a four step process. First you focus on the event, or a part of the event. Then self talk is generated. Then emotion is felt. And then an action is taken.

In this episode, John and Kelly talk about how the human mind works. John recently got back from visiting in person with the mental coach for the USC football team. His name is Tim Kight. He’s probably the top sports psychologist in the country. In his first year at USC he turned them around from four and eight the prior year to 11 and three. John talks about how the human mind works. And said that today there is a bifurcation in society. Between people that have control over themselves and those that don’t. And as proof of that, John outlines what the average life looks like in America today.

In this episode, John and Kelly talk about how a person’s inner world determines their outer world. This topic was inspired by John listening to Tony Robbins on the impact theory podcast. In this episode John mentions that you live up or down to your identity. Most people create their identity by default. And one’s identity is determined by the stories you tell yourself. Kelly mentions that this is so closely aligned to what think it be it is all about. Which is you create your identity first on paper. Exactly the person you want to be, exactly what you want to accomplish, and precisely how you achieve your clearly defined goals. Then you feed that identity to yourself 12 minutes a day, using the think it be it template

In this episode John talked about how to have a great marriage. The Einstein of marriage in the United States is John and Julie Gottman. Based on their extensive research, they truly are the top in their field of marriage and relationships. Based on their research, we all have unconscious tripwires from childhood wounds. It is critical that you know your spouse’s childhood wounds as well as your own. When you understand these, your relationship goes to a deeper level. John also mentions that you have to have deep conversations with your spouse. That’s the path to a better relationship.

In this episode John and Kelly talk about the stories we tell ourselves impact our behaviors. These stories are always playing in the background in the subconscious mind. And they drive our behaviors as well as our fears. Oftentimes we need to take a hard look at these stories and see if they are serving us. Often they are not. So you need to go back and look at what actually happened in each story and then may be reinterpret the Takeaway. When you do that, the story changes and it affects your behaviors. John talks about the power of the think it be it methodology. Where you are thinking two times a week, deep thinking. But also doing it in conjunction with another habit. Reading your daily visualization. The combination is powerful. The thinking allows you to identify your stories and maybe reinterpret your stories. Then once they are reinterpreted, you can reprogram yourself with your daily visualization. It’s a powerful combination.

In this episode John talked about recently watching the movie “The Book Club”. It stars Jane Fonda, Candace Bergen, Diane Keaton and Mary Steembergen. It’s about four women who are in their 60s and 70s. The romantic and sexual side of their life has dried up. But then they read the book 50 shades of gray. It re-energizes the sensual side of each one of them. When John watched this movie, he watched it through the lens of Think It Be It. The reason each of the women have lost the romantic/intimacy side of their life is because they have nothing in their life that pulled their lives forward. Like a daily visualization. They were letting themselves be innately wired for survival and doing nothing about it. The effect was as each got older, their lives were contracting. Getting smaller. They become more fear-based. More focused on the limitations than the possibilities. The net effect is it made both John and Kelly appreciate the profound value of having a daily visualization where you articulate exactly the person you want to be, exactly what you want to accomplish, and precisely how you can achieve your clearly defined goals. That’s how you create the desired life you want in the future. And that daily visualization pulls your thoughts forward. Which then creates the actions which creates the life you want. Powerfully simple.