The Mind Thrives on Order

Welcome to The Missing Secret Podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield, hey, and

I'm John Mitchell, so the title of our episode today is the mind thrives on order and and obviously, Kelly, you know, when you're feeding the succinct articulation of your life to yourself each day. It's creating immense order in your, in your in your mind, right? Yep,

Absolutely. That clarity provides a ton of order.

You know, one thing that you said that I thought was fascinating, is that once you started doing this methodology, you felt lighter. Would you explain that to our audience?

Yeah, I think it's a perfect it drives home the point of this particular episode perfectly, where we're talking about the mind thriving on order, because so much prior to this methodology, and, you know, implementing this into my life on a daily basis, I had so many like, and I'm sure so many people who are listening will will be able to relate to this, where you have so many like, half thoughts, like something comes into your awareness, to your consciousness, you think, oh, you know, that's a great idea. Then it kind of starts running around in the background here, in your subconscious, you know, kind of bumping around in there, and everything, sweet rose, half thought. Then another thing comes in, oh, I need to do that. You've got this, you know. So I'd have all of these half thoughts going around which were creating a lot of just stress, you know. And so when I would feel lighter, when I say that this methodology helped me feel lighter, it was because by getting things in order and being able to turn half thoughts into full thoughts through some of the different techniques that I've learned, and through this methodology, it would organize what was going on in my head. Everything kind of had a place to live, and it would bring that order in. And so when I said I would feel I felt lighter. It was because I just felt so less stressed. My brain was running like a fine oiled machine, instead of this thing that was like, you know, again, just things coming half thoughts coming in and out, and not having that clarity to get, you know, so, so much more to it than that. But for me, I think when I said lighter, I think I was just, I felt less stressed, right?

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I'm not sure why it did that

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and I think what so when we're talking about the mind thriving on order, like, what? So what's the connection to what the to this exercise?

I will see I'm not looking at a equalizer or anything like that, so I'm just listening to it

So it's pretty interesting. I think, yeah,

No, it's very interesting. And

So with your favorite song to our audience. For your favorite song, try that, because I'm telling you, you'll you'll appreciate how how profound the order in music is, and that's why you like music, because it's order. And, yeah, especially when you know the song, you know what's coming up. And that's the analogy is, when you're meeting the succinct articulation of your life to yourself each day, you're creating that same level of board. Were in the mind,

I love that. No, that's cool. I had never made that connection before. I thank you for sharing that.

It really is. And I think too, if you, you know, are listening, and you think about it, think about when you've been in a, you know, like, not a great mood, you know. And like, so the lens you're looking through, and everything that you're looking at, I mean, it goes back to what, what I've said before, whatever you look for, you'll find whatever energy you're bringing to a situation is the energy you're going to get back if you show up, you know, and come in hot. The people are going to come in hot back at you, you know what I mean. And I look at this all the time in interviewing, you know, if somebody comes in and they're all slumped over in their seat, you know, like they're it affects their whole energy and how they show up in the interview. And so I believe that absolutely, the thoughts that are going on in your head you know, are what dictate, you know, the quality of your life. If you're always like bummed out, then bummer things are going to keep happening to you, and you're going to look at everything through that lens and only see those things you know, right?

You know, it's my opinion that probably 70 to 80% of people, if you said that the thoughts going on your head determine your success and enjoyment in life, they go, Oh, that's I get out of here. That's a budget. Bucha, do you think that's why

I think that. I think that people don't think about this. And so I think that when you first say it, you know, let the thoughts going in, you know, in your the thoughts in your mind, in your head, are determining the quality of your life, you know. And if you really stop to think about it, you know, and be like, Okay, well, what are the thoughts that I have going on, right? You know. And then, am I happy? You know, are my is the outcome and the results that I have, you know? Am I happy with those? I think people, it requires some clarity burst, because I don't think people think about their thoughts at all, right, equality of their thoughts. So I think that's part of why there might be some initial resistance to that idea. Is because people really don't evaluate what is going on in their heads and what their thoughts are. You know what I mean? This goes back to that clarity piece, you know, I think that, yeah, it's that.

There's a lot of people that are that way, like my best friend Bobby, if I talk to him about this, he's like, it's, it's a he's oblivious to it. He doesn't want to think about it, you know? And that's okay, you know? We're, we're all made a little different and, and I see that for people to embrace this methodology, you got to be, I think, reflective about your life, and be and be a thinker. Because, you know, once you realize that every action, well, let me back up, your actions determine your success, and every action is preceded by a thought, you can't do an action without a thought, then you start to, you know, connect the dots that Oh yeah. Then I see where the thoughts going on in my head would affect my success, but it's also affects your enjoyment of life as well, because the thoughts give context to what's going on in your life and and I see that that in life, life Life is tough. I mean, there's times where life is fabulous, and there's times where it's really, really tough. But if you sort of get this idea that that I'm going to understand how the human mind works, and I'm going to use it to my advantage, and I'm going to influence those thoughts, and the way I'm going to do it is by feeding my ideal life to myself every day. You know, then you start to see, oh, you know, there's this, this constant dance between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. You know, the conscious mind is created. Using the ideal you and recreating your identity. And of course, all that sort of creates order in the mind, just from the fact that you're creating this summary of your life, and you're condensing it down to essentially two pages on the live GPS template. So that's a whole conscious mind thing, and then once you feed that to yourself every day, now you're impacting who you really are, because that's where your thoughts are getting created. And so it's just a powerful thing when you orchestrate that dance between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.

No, and I love, you know, going back to and just as we begin to wrap up this conversation on the mind thriving on order, you know, last week or the week before, we talk about it all the time, but that reticular activating system, you know, part of the mind thriving on order is, you know, again, I love to use that analogy of of when you are searching for things in Google, you know, and and likening that to the reticular activating system, the more refined you know, your search is, the more quality of information that you get back, right? That, when you don't have a lot of clarity, like so many people do, and they're out there scrolling, and they're out there, and then the next thing pops up and they're like, oh, and the next thing pops up and they're like, Oh, I'm going to go this direction. You know, it's, it's overwhelming. But when you have a lot of clarity, and you've, you've, your reticular activating system knows that exactly, you know what to look for and what you want, then it begins to sort it pushes all that other noise out. You know, which? Which helps your mind, you know, have order, gives it focus, and that's where so much of the thriving comes into place. Is because you, you know, have given it its instructions. Basically you've given its marching orders. It knows what to do. And now the art of where that order comes from too,

Hi, then absolutely game changer for sure.

Okay, well, until next time, we'll see you.