The Effects Of AGING

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 In this episode John and Kelly discuss the impact of aging. And there’s lots of good things about getting older. John says that one thing he’s learned from aging is that most things don’t matter. But some things matter a lot. Things that don’t matter is what other people think. What does matter is his relationship with his wife and his close friends. Being clear on his values and living them daily. Impacting his daily mindset. And savoring his precious life with intentionality to do that. John and Kelly also discuss that they learned that success is something you attract – by the person you become. Rather than something you chase. The other thing they note is that your relationship with yourself gets better. With more peace and contentment. You get way more comfortable in your skin. They talk about the idea of outlasting the temporary.

About the Hosts:

John Mitchell

John’s story is pretty amazing. After spending 20 years as an entrepreneur, John was 50 years old but wasn’t as successful as he thought he should be. To rectify that, he decided to find the “top book in the world” on SUCCESS and apply that book literally Word for Word to his life. That Book is Think & Grow Rich. The book says there’s a SECRET for success, but the author only gives you half the secret. John figured out the full secret and a 12 minute a day technique to apply it.

When John applied his 12 minute a day technique to his life, he saw his yearly income go to over $5 million a year, after 20 years of $200k – 300k per year. The 25 times increase happened because John LEVERAGED himself by applying science to his life.

His daily technique works because it focuses you ONLY on what moves the needle, triples your discipline, and consistently generates new business ideas every week. This happens because of 3 key aspects of the leveraging process.

John’s technique was profiled on the cover of Time Magazine. He teaches it at the University of Texas’ McCombs School of Business, which is one the TOP 5 business schools in the country. He is also the “mental coach” for the head athletic coaches at the University of Texas as well.

Reach out to John at john@thinkitbeit.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-mitchell-76483654/

 Kelly Hatfield

Kelly Hatfield is an entrepreneur at heart. She believes wholeheartedly in the power of the ripple effect and has built several successful companies aimed at helping others make a greater impact in their businesses and lives.

She has been in the recruiting, HR, and leadership development space for over 25 years and loves serving others. Kelly, along with her amazing business partners and teams, has built four successful businesses aimed at matching exceptional talent with top organizations and developing their leadership. Her work coaching and consulting with companies to develop their leadership teams, design recruiting and retention strategies, AND her work as host of Absolute Advantage podcast (where she talks with successful entrepreneurs, executives, and thought leaders across a variety of industries), give her a unique perspective covering the hiring experience and leadership from all angles.

As a Partner in her most recent venture, Think It Be It, Kelly has made the natural transition into the success and human achievement field, helping entrepreneurs break through to the next level in their businesses. Further expanding the impact she’s making in this world. Truly living into the power of the ripple effect.

Reach out to Kelly at kelly@thinkitbeit.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelly-hatfield-2a2610a/

Learn more about Think It Be It at https://thinkitbeit.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-it-be-it-llc

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thinkitbeitcompany

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Transcript
Unknown:

How do driven entrepreneurs like you and me? Who want to play the game of life at our full potential? actually do that? So that we met seven figures a year and experience the overall exceptional life? It's all about leveraging our most valuable asset, our brain. But how do we train our brain to actually rewire our autopilot so that all of the right actions and focus happens automatically without thinking as we create the exceptional life in business health, and our significant other relationships? These are the questions and this is the podcast that answers them. This is where your net seven figures a year freedom begins.

Unknown:

Welcome, I'm Kelly Hatfield. Hey. And I'm John Michell. So today our topic is aging. Something that no bat no doubt everybody experiences now whether we want to experience or not, but I think aging is pretty darn cool. Kelly, what do you think? Well, when you first said it, I went, my first response was,

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but you know, there's so many. It a, it beats the alternative, you know,

Unknown:

be there's so many I love reframing aging, because as a woman, too, there's a lot of other things that come along with aging, you know, that are a concern.

Unknown:

But I think one of the things that I have loved about aging is just the wisdom, you know, that comes along with aging, and all of that experience. And, you know, I spent my 30s will 20s and 30s, you know, uncomfortable in my own skin, you know, you're still trying to figure out who you are and your place in the world. And with each passing year after 40. You know, along with some other things. As far as just feeling that passage of time and a sense of urgency. I've also felt more and more comfortable in my skin and confidence and that wisdom. So anyway, when you when you said like you said you said when when you said aging? What do you what was your first response? First, right. Oh, boy, Joe, you know, asked me when I'm not standing in front of a beer.

Unknown:

Well, you know, I think your your point, though, is, is really good about being more comfortable in your skin, because that does happen. And

Unknown:

I don't know, it does seem to happen, right as you start hitting 40. And that's a that's a wonderful thing, because it changes your relationship with yourself in a very, very positive way. I think.

Unknown:

And so, you know, I know from my end, I noticed that as I get older, very few things matter, only a few things matter. And as an example of things that don't matter, what other people think doesn't matter. I of course I want the people I'm close to, to always think good things. But beyond that, I don't know that I really care.

Unknown:

What do you what do you think about that? No, 100% that's one of the things that has come along for me with aging is

Unknown:

again, that being comfortable in your own skin, and life just seems to get simpler, I just remember how much energy I would expend, caring about what other people thought, you know, or wanting to please or whatever the case may be. And I to the point that you made, there are very few things in life that matter. And the people who love me, like if I am being a good person, that is all like, you know, so I always want to do what's right, I want to do what's fair, right? Always I don't care if people are mad at me or they're not, you know, because I'm always doing what's right, what's fair, I'm always showing up as the best version of myself or trying to and so however you feel about that version of me isn't my problem. Well, you know, it's interesting, your standard is your standard now other people's Yeah, that's that's that, you know, getting comfortable in your own skin. When we really, you know, go down this rabbit hole a little further is that we see that,

Unknown:

that we set our own standard and it's not

Unknown:

the standard of other people. And, and that's one of the beauties of aging.

Unknown:

And I think you know about things that do matter. I see that my relationship with my wife is is huge.

Unknown:

Is that I always want that to be great and constantly improving it. Being clear on my values and living them daily, that's really important. I see that controlling my mindset with with my morning routine is critical and, and just, you know, savoring life and intentionally make it a point to save her life like ginger. And I did that this morning, I've may have told you this. But, you know, I read my visualization. And then I used to get to work about nine o'clock. And sometimes Ginger's puttering around the house. But every day before I get in my office, I sit in my chair, close my eyes and smell an essential oil. And, and just, you know, get centered for the day and you know, maybe two or three minutes and in breeds, and maybe once a week, twice a week, ginger will be around I go ginge sit down so she'll sit

Unknown:

across from me go, just let's save her, this amazing life were blessed with and let's not worry about what happened yesterday, let's not worry about what's going to happen tomorrow. Just savor we're living the dream. And you know, it's just such a powerful thing. We haven't done this in a couple of weeks. I said, Baby, you know, we need to do this. Every I mean, a couple times a week, because it's such a cool thing.

Unknown:

And I don't know what that has to do with he other than, you know, the practice of being intentional about your life that happens more with aging. Yeah, absolutely. And I think just, when you, I think this is definitely one of the things that I've recognized, you know, I mentioned that sense of urgency, the the feeling of time becoming more and more precious, you know, I remember being from the time I was 10 years old, I couldn't wait to be 16 that I couldn't wait to be 18, then I couldn't wait to be 21. And I thought man will be great to be 30 I'll have, you know, like you're always in this hurry to get to the next thing. And what I've recognized is that when I hit 40, you know, it was like, oh, you know, pump the brakes.

Unknown:

Straight low this baby dad.

Unknown:

So I think that's one of the wonderful things that comes with aging is just this appreciation for how precious time and life is, you know, because you're starting to see like, oh, you know what I mean? I've got more behind me than I do in front of me right now. Right? So you know, and this is something, there's somebody I follow His name is Jesse Eisler. And, you know, he talks about the way he thinks about time is, okay, so if I've got 20 summers left, or 30 summers left, you know, and I get to see, you know, God Willing parents are still, you know, and maybe I've got 10 or 15 years, and I see them twice a year, then maybe I'm gonna see them 30 more times, you know what I mean? Provided things go according, you know, go well, yeah, like making like, Okay, well, then I've got to make ever be, make that time quality, you know, and make every one of them be intentional. That's a word you used earlier about how you utilize your time, the quality of the time that you're spending with people and really save her life, you know, and I feel that more now than ever with it just seeming more and more precious to me time does. Hmm. Yeah, that's a great point. That's a cool way to look at it.

Unknown:

You know, one thing I appreciate about aging is that I see that success is something you attract by the person you become, and I don't know, I think I heard this in my 20s. And I had no idea what that meant. But I see it now that you know, you attract success by creating the right habits and having the right values and living your values and, and controlling your, your mindset. So, you know, and I remember this analogy that chasing success is like chasing a butterfly, it's very elusive. But when you focus on you being the person that's going to attract success, that's going to generate the success for the person you become.

Unknown:

Such as you know, all the things we talked about focusing on what moves the needle being organized, setting aside time to think growing when you when you dial all that into your life. That's what attracts success. And I see as I've gotten older, that's very much true, don't you think? Oh, yeah, no, absolutely. I think you know, we've talked about this, you know, as part of, you know, the methodology I always say it wasn't it

Unknown:

It's who you are becoming in the process of getting, you know, so it's that being and I always like, I've got something on my whiteboard that says be do have

Unknown:

that simple like be show up be if you're if you want to be a millionaire then write on your board. What would a millionaire be doing right now? Ya know what I mean? If you want to be the top selling salesperson and you're then what would the top sell selling salesperson be doing right now? So that's the and then do start taking action and doing those things and then guess what? You'll have what you want? Right? You know, that's the that's great. You know, I tell you something I have gotten turned on to lately. Ed Mallette talks about this, you have to outlast the temporary. Yeah. Have you ever heard him talk about that? I have. I love you. He has an episode about that, that I that the title of the episode is that and I loved it. Right. Yeah, I and that's a great, a great line that that, you know, if things aren't going quite the way you want them to you just have to help outlast the temporary. I love one of the lines that he said in that too. And I have this written down. I wrote this down was success requires no apologies. And failures. Failure allows no alibis. Yeah.

Unknown:

We know he says that's from thinking Grow Rich. Yes. Ah, yeah.

Unknown:

Yeah, this is this is this interesting.

Unknown:

We're gonna get to know, Mr. Ed, and lead us on on the list here. Well, you know, to wrap this up in terms of aging, I think the takeaways is that aging is good. I mean, like you said, at the start is better than the alternative.

Unknown:

But absent that, you know, truly the wisdom you get, and that being more comfortable in your skin is better than the declines in terms of the physical, you know, I mean, that's, that's the big takeaway for me, what do you think the takeaway for you is? No, I think, absolutely. I love the wisdom, I love this process, I love

Unknown:

I feel like I have so much like the time I'm spending is so much more quality. And I feel like I have so much more because I'm not wasting it. Like I recognize how precious it is. And then I'm not wasting all that energy worrying about what other people think I'm just it's like, I am who I am, you know, and, you know, you've got choices. You don't have to like me, that's okay. You know, so I love the freedom, the freedom, that's one other word I would like to use, I think that is comes along with aging is the freedom to, to really start showing up the way that you want to show up in the world. Right. And, you know, one other thing I might add, you know, I think at at about 50

Unknown:

People go irrespective of where they are financially, I think they go, I am doing this, this work thing, this career thing on my terms now enough of, you know, on everybody else's terms, I'm I'm living my career on my terms and, and that's again, being comfortable in your your own skin, and and whatever that means to you. It's just fine. So, but again, enjoy aging, you can't do anything about it and like Kelly says, is better than the alternative.

Unknown:

Okay, we'll see you next time.