False Beliefs That Block Your Success

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Kelly and John reveal how their lives changed for the better when they recognized and changed their false beliefs. John first realized this huge revelation when he read the book Think And Grow Rich, By Napoleon Hill – ten times. We do not control our daily actions, we can only control our intentions and our autopilot. Once you have learned to control your autopilot you will gain control of your success! Watch your life change when you realize this huge breakthrough. 

About the Hosts:

John Mitchell

John’s story is pretty amazing. After spending 20 years as an entrepreneur, John was 50 years old but wasn’t as successful as he thought he should be. To rectify that, he decided to find the “top book in the world” on SUCCESS and apply that book literally Word for Word to his life. That Book is Think & Grow Rich. The book says there’s a SECRET for success, but the author only gives you half the secret. John figured out the full secret and a 12 minute a day technique to apply it.

When John applied his 12 minute a day technique to his life, he saw his yearly income go to over $5 million a year, after 20 years of $200k – 300k per year. The 25 times increase happened because John LEVERAGED himself by applying science to his life.

His daily technique works because it focuses you ONLY on what moves the needle, triples your discipline, and consistently generates new business ideas every week. This happens because of 3 key aspects of the leveraging process.

John’s technique was profiled on the cover of Time Magazine. He teaches it at the University of Texas’ McCombs School of Business, which is one the TOP 5 business schools in the country. He is also the “mental coach” for the head athletic coaches at the University of Texas as well.

Reach out to John at john@thinkitbeit.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-mitchell-76483654/

Kelly Hatfield

Kelly Hatfield is an entrepreneur at heart. She believes wholeheartedly in the power of the ripple effect and has built several successful companies aimed at helping others make a greater impact in their businesses and lives.

She has been in the recruiting, HR, and leadership development space for over 25 years and loves serving others. Kelly, along with her amazing business partners and teams, has built four successful businesses aimed at matching exceptional talent with top organizations and developing their leadership. Her work coaching and consulting with companies to develop their leadership teams, design recruiting and retention strategies, AND her work as host of Absolute Advantage podcast (where she talks with successful entrepreneurs, executives, and thought leaders across a variety of industries), give her a unique perspective covering the hiring experience and leadership from all angles.

As a Partner in her most recent venture, Think It Be It, Kelly has made the natural transition into the success and human achievement field, helping entrepreneurs break through to the next level in their businesses. Further expanding the impact she’s making in this world. Truly living into the power of the ripple effect.

Reach out to Kelly at kelly@thinkitbeit.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelly-hatfield-2a2610a/

Learn more about Think It Be It at https://thinkitbeit.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/think-it-be-it-llc

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Transcript
Kelly Hatfield:

How do driven entrepreneurs like you and me? Who want to play the game of life at our full potential? actually do that? So that we met seven figures a year and experience the overall exceptional life? It's all about leveraging our most valuable asset, our brain. But how do we train our brain to actually rewire our autopilot so that all of the right actions and focus happens automatically without thinking, as we create the exceptional life in business health, and our significant other relationships? These are the questions and this is the podcast that answers them. This is where your net seven figures at your freedom begins.

Kelly Hatfield:

Hello, I'm Kelly Hatfield. Hey.

John Mitchell:

And I'm John Michell. Well, hey,

Kelly Hatfield:

John, what are we going to talk about today?

John Mitchell:

Well, we're going to talk about false beliefs, what what false beliefs impact our ability to create success in our life. And I think to start off this, I'm going to give a, if you don't mind, I'm going to I'm going to share something really personal and maybe be vulnerable about something. So as you and a few other people probably know, back when I was 50, I wasn't as successful as I thought I should be. And I ended up deciding to find the topic on on success and apply that book, literally word for word to my life. And, and so I buy the book discovered, there's a secret for success, but the author only gives you half of the secret, I ultimately, dig deep and figure out the full secret and a 12 minute a day technique to apply it. And I started applying it to to my life and and my income goes up by 25 times to mid seven figures a year and truly life changing. And so that's a little bit of the story. But let me let me go a little deeper. And this is what is personal. So at 50, there was more than just feeling the scarcity of time. At this time, my mom is dying, she's, she's dying of pancreatic cancer. And so, every night after work, I'd go and just see her and you know, I'd hold her hand, I talked to her, I just just love on her. And, you know, it was everything I could do to keep from just breaking down in front of her. So every night, you know, I'd spent two hours with her and then then I'd leave the hospital and I'd walk out in that cold dark parking lot. And it was winter. And it was, it was cold. And so I feel that cold wind hit me every, every night. And so I get to my car, and I'd start the engine in my car just to warm up and then I cry my eyes out for like 30 minutes every night. And I've never experienced anything emotional like that, where every night you're, you're having this gut wrenching emotional response. And, and obviously I'm feeling the pain of of losing my my mom. But I could tell there was a lot more to this than just sad. You know, I just felt like I was letting my mom and dad down from not making more of my life. And you know, they gave me all the advantages they sent me to Jesuit High School in Dallas when they really couldn't afford it. And they sent me to the University of Texas and paid for everything and so you know, all I had at 50 to show for it was the average life and as I've said before, I hated the average life because I just saw that I was capable of so much more and I think you probably felt that that way too. A little right? Yeah, absolutely. And so anyway, one particular night what really changed my life during this time and and so I go out my car and again I cry my eyes out and but something's different this night and it's snowing, which in Dallas, it doesn't snow very often but it's snowing and I'm driving home and I see those snowflakes hitting the the windshield and and I get home and I go to my comfy chair and I read pages from thinking Grow Rich. Now keep in mind this is probably the the 10th time I've read thinking grow rich. I mean that's this you know, period of about two months, where I'm like I'm gonna figure out the full set Did you know he only gives you half of the secret I'm figuring out the full secret. And in that process required reading the book 10 times, or at least I felt that did. And so I'm reading, you know, some pages from the book and, and this time, he basically says that your success in life comes down to your daily actions, the cumulative effect of your daily actions is what determines your success in each area of your life. And then I also read that 95% of your daily actions are unconscious. Hmm, interesting, huh? Well, okay, so but by now, I'm, I'm getting tired. And so I put the book down, and I go, and I wash my face and brush my teeth and, and get in bed. And so I'm laying there in bed, and I can't stop thinking about the book, you know, and what I've, I've read, and I'm thinking, Hmm, 95% of my daily actions are unconscious. And I'm like, wow, I don't control my daily actions. I don't consciously control my daily actions. And, you know, I remember I like set up in bed. And I'm like, wow, this is an epiphany. Because I see that my daily actions are what determine my success in each area of my life, yet I don't control the very thing that determines my success. And I'm like, wow, wow, this, I've been operating under a false belief that I did control my daily actions. And then I started to realize, oh, I controlled my intentions, I knew I control something. It just wasn't that my daily actions. So so I'm like, wow, I control my intentions. And then I'm like, okay, and now, again, I'm sitting up in bed, because this is a pivotal moment, I can tell. And, like, what, what does control my daily actions? Well, it's my autopilot, my subconscious mind. And, and, you know, that's why in the book, he spent so much time talking about the subconscious mind and auto suggestion, you know, now, it's all coming to light, you know, the, I'm able to now start connecting the dots that for some reason I couldn't connect before. And, and so, you know, as, as I sort of evolved with this, I'm like, the big takeaway, the big Domino, the thing that was has been holding me back throughout my 30s and 40s, was that my autopilot controls my success. And the false belief has been that I controlled my success, because I thought I controlled my daily actions. And so, you know, the takeaway from that, I think, is, is that probably a lot of people just like, like me, but you know, the pivotal moment, was not what happened subsequently. Because, you know, what happened subsequently, is I figured out the full sacred and a 12 minute a day technique to apply it. And Off, off I go, and then I introduce it to you, but I see that the pivotal moment, was understanding what was the false belief that was holding me, me back. And so I remember, you know, then introducing it to you, and, and, you know, share with me your, your sort of false beliefs when you got introduced to this.

Kelly Hatfield:

Yeah. So, you know, I think I'm just touching really quick on what you just said, about being in control of your actions and your false belief. And I remember you asking me that question, you know, when we first you know, started to dive into this together, and I said, Well, yeah, of course I do. I'm accountable, responsible for my actions, you know, when that's, that was my viewpoint on it. And, you know, then you explained what you just explained to me, you know, and I started to learn the science and everything, but honestly, I will, I wasn't thinking about my actions at all. So when we're talking about in the way that you just defined it, that absolutely was a false belief of mine. I just didn't know it was a belief at all, you know, that I controlled my actions because I never thought about it right. Until you asked me that question. And then kind of like you just said, the dominoes started to fall and I was like, oh, because a belief that I had or or a false beliefs that I had moving into when I met you, right, what is it that you have to sacrifice? You can't have it all. You've got to sacrifice as an entrepreneur and as a business owner, you Want to build the business of your dreams, then there are things that are going to, that you're going to have to compromise on. So the quality, you know, of your life as far as family is concerned, you know, I, you know, I've mentioned this before, in prior episodes, I was spending 70 hours a week, and it was like, the harder I had this belief that the harder I worked, that that was going to pay off, you know, that eventually, you know, things would pay off, the harder I work, well, the opposite was happening, the harder I worked, you know, the more stressed I got, the more burned out I got, the less money I made, because, you know, so I just, I had this belief that if I worked hard, and if I sacrificed, and I compromised in some areas of my life, and I just like laser focused on growing my business, that that's how you achieve business success. And it couldn't be further from the truth. And then when we met, and you asked me that question, I was like, oh, right, like the light came on, you know, and then it continued, that light continued to get brighter, and brighter and brighter, as I started to understand things at a deeper level. And then holy cow, you know, once I realized that, through this method, I could control my autopilot, you know, I could, you know, I have control over the, you know, all of my subconscious actions that I could actually begin to get that to work for me rather than against me, because it was 100%, working against me, all of that old programming, all of my old stories, my false beliefs about money, my false beliefs about how to grow a business, like all of those things have been ingrained in me, My people pleasing, like, all of these things, follow you in your, you know, in that programming, they're part of that subconscious. So if, if you're letting that old programming run your life, well, then yeah, you're not going to have the success that you, you know, aspire to have. And so anyway, that was, I think the biggest for me was again, that I just run faster, run faster, work harder, you know, and that couldn't have been further from the truth.

John Mitchell:

Well, you know, and think about this, I love that you said, you know, the the light bulb goes on, you know, at the end of the day, that was the pivotal moment in your life, not not what subsequently happened when you learn this and all all that happened. But the pivotal moment, was realizing that your approach to success, the fundamental approach was just not right. And it was built on a false belief. And, you know, that's, and that's what's so cool. I think, when we teach people is seeing that light bulb. Go on that, oh, this is way different than anything I've been shared with before. And, and so it's, it's just interesting how this works. And you know, the other thing I see is that, you know, people talk about, well, you need to work smarter. This is certainly working smarter, but, but I know, and I know you're this this way, too. You say okay, well, you got to work smarter, not harder. And everybody sort of subconsciously probably goes full, of course, but how? You know, I get it. Yeah, so but the only reason I'm working so damn hard, is because I don't know, there's an alternative, nobody's actually given me a practical thing that I can do that is going to be working smarter, and you buy that?

Kelly Hatfield:

Oh, yeah. 100% I'm like, I get it. That makes perfect sense. But what does that mean? And, you know, kind of going back to what we talked about, you know, in a prior episode, where we were talking about the seven, you know, habits for success, you know, it's going right back to that it's, it's, you know, focusing on what moves the needle, you know, like, there are those seven habits help you work smarter. And this methodology installs all of that programming that you need to, you know, that consistently do the behavior those those seven habits, but yeah, I wasn't, I didn't understand either what working smarter was, I'm like, Well, I feel like I like as far as time management or, you know, that's the things I'm thinking of when I'm thinking working smarter, you know, but really, what I was doing was herding cats all day, in my mind.

John Mitchell:

Yeah. Well, and you know, I'd say the other the other two false beliefs as we sort of wrap this up is, is one is people go, Well, I don't have discipline. Well, you do have discipline, if you control your autopilot. You don't have discipline if you don't, I mean, it's literally that simple. And you know, that's an epiphany for people that because they see that discipline is so critical and in not only their business but controlling their health and in and having a great marriage. And and so that To another sort of false belief that I don't have discipline and, and maybe what would be the the other one? I had it in my head, what else would be a false belief? Can you think anything else?

Kelly Hatfield:

I think for me, it was discipline, it was, you know, that I find just work harder. And then and then the actions, you know, that you are in control of your actions was the other, you know, false beliefs. So those were those were my three main, you know, beliefs. I think were because on the discipline one, I would, you know, I would be like, I know what to do, you know, how come I'm not doing it? I know, you know, I told the story about leadership and getting in the day to day because I was kind of the problem solver in my business, I knew I needed to change a certain behavior to get a better outcome and to, you know, get more of my time back, I had the best to the word you used earlier intentions, right? Why couldn't I translate that into consistently doing the behavior that supported that intention? Right, so I'm like, why don't I have that discipline? Well, you know, it goes back to what we were just talking about, so.

John Mitchell:

Right, well, and you know, I guess I now I remember, the fourth one is that people assume that they they don't control their autopilot. You know, they they don't first of all, they don't fully understand the critical importance of their autopilot, but when you introduce it to them, they assume that they don't control it. Their false belief is that I don't control my auto pilot. And boy, that couldn't be further from the truth. So with that, we'll see you next time and if you want to learn more go to think it be it.com or email Kelly at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or me at John@thinkitbeit.com. So we'll see you next time.