Defining The Exceptional Life


According to John and Kelly the key components to living an exceptional life are:

1.   Netting over $1 million dollars a year

2.   Good health, and

3.   Great romantic Relationships

We need to get rid of false beliefs that over-working will get you where you want to go. Your time is precious, and you need to take control of your life to thrive. Make time for the most important things in life with these three essential things.

About the Hosts:

John Mitchell

John’s story is pretty amazing. After spending 20 years as an entrepreneur, John was 50 years old but wasn’t as successful as he thought he should be. To rectify that, he decided to find the “top book in the world” on SUCCESS and apply that book literally Word for Word to his life. That Book is Think & Grow Rich. The book says there’s a SECRET for success, but the author only gives you half the secret. John figured out the full secret and a 12 minute a day technique to apply it.

When John applied his 12 minute a day technique to his life, he saw his yearly income go to over $5 million a year, after 20 years of $200k – 300k per year. The 25 times increase happened because John LEVERAGED himself by applying science to his life.

His daily technique works because it focuses you ONLY on what moves the needle, triples your discipline, and consistently generates new business ideas every week. This happens because of 3 key aspects of the leveraging process.

John’s technique was profiled on the cover of Time Magazine. He teaches it at the University of Texas’ McCombs School of Business, which is one the TOP 5 business schools in the country. He is also the “mental coach” for the head athletic coaches at the University of Texas as well.

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Kelly Hatfield

Kelly Hatfield is an entrepreneur at heart. She believes wholeheartedly in the power of the ripple effect and has built several successful companies aimed at helping others make a greater impact in their businesses and lives.

She has been in the recruiting, HR, and leadership development space for over 25 years and loves serving others. Kelly, along with her amazing business partners and teams, has built four successful businesses aimed at matching exceptional talent with top organizations and developing their leadership. Her work coaching and consulting with companies to develop their leadership teams, design recruiting and retention strategies, AND her work as host of Absolute Advantage podcast (where she talks with successful entrepreneurs, executives, and thought leaders across a variety of industries), give her a unique perspective covering the hiring experience and leadership from all angles.

As a Partner in her most recent venture, Think It Be It, Kelly has made the natural transition into the success and human achievement field, helping entrepreneurs break through to the next level in their businesses. Further expanding the impact she’s making in this world. Truly living into the power of the ripple effect.

Reach out to Kelly at


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Kelly Hatfield:

How do driven entrepreneurs like you and me? Who want to play the game of life at our full potential? actually do that? So that we met seven figures a year and experience the overall exceptional life? It's all about leveraging our most valuable asset, our brain. But how do we train our brain to actually rewire our autopilot so that all of the right actions and focus happens automatically without thinking, as we create the exceptional life in business health, and our significant other relationships? These are the questions and this is the podcast that answers them. This is where your net seven figures at your freedom begins. Hi, there. I'm Kelly Hatfield.

John Mitchell:

And I'm John Michell.

Kelly Hatfield:

Thank you so much for joining us today, we're really excited about today's topic, because it really goes to the foundation of who we are and what we do as an organization. And it's this idea of the exceptional life. So we thought we talked today a little bit about what that means to us. What is the exceptional life? So I'm gonna, I'm gonna pass this off to you, John. And and let's get us started.

John Mitchell:

Okay. Well, you know, to me, the exceptional life is pretty simple. It's it's three things. It's netting over a million dollars a year, as materialistic as that sounds, the second one is having your health. And the third is having a great romantic relationship. And, and, you know, I really say that, unapologetically that that I mean, it does sound like it's materialistic to say, netting over a million dollars a year is really important, but I'm sorry, it is, you know, money makes life easier. And if you're playing at your full potential, and you've got a pretty decent business, you can net a million dollars a year, there's no excuse for, for playing the game of being an entrepreneur at a lower level and accepting that you're going to live on on you know, what you're netting of two or $300,000 a year. And I see so often people have a, it seems like in the entrepreneur world, there seems to be this invisible ceiling around Oh, I don't know. $400,000. That. I mean, we don't see many people, netting, say $800,000, we're theirs bunched up in that three to 400,000 range, or they're already over a million, you know, half of our clients are over already netting a million and a half or under bet. Again, back to the point. The exceptional life to me, is is all three having had making really good money, certainly having your health and having a great romantic relationship. And, and to me, that's the exceptional life. What's your take on it?

Kelly Hatfield:

Yeah, you know, I think we're on the same page. As far as you know, the overarching, I think, for me, the exceptional life comes down to the the quality, it comes down to my time, time is precious, it's the only resource that we can't get back. And so it's about how I spend those moments. It's about, you know, some money, netting over a million buys me the freedom to decide how I'm going to spend those moments. So it's the quality of the time I spend, it's the quality of the life, I'm able to sew the things I'm able to my home, my you know, but for me, too, it's the quality of those moments, spending my time exactly how I want to spend it. Because life and time is precious, you know, early in my entrepreneurial journey health, not early in it. You know, up until five years ago, I put way too much of an emphasis on growing my business at the expense of everything I was doing everything I was doing wrong. I just thought like we've talked about before. And the belief one of the beliefs I had is that if I just work harder, if I just work harder, I'm going to get to where I want to go I'm going to cross over that to netting that million dollars a year, or whatever the goal was at the time for us it was you know, hitting a certain revenue level because that meant we could hire more employees and we were all about our are all about creating this culture and providing really great opportunities for employees. And so like I was laser focused on everybody else's needs on growing this business to and I did it at the expense of everything else in my life, my marriage, my health, I missing out on all kinds of meaningful moments, because I was if I wasn't working in my business, on the day to day I was trying to figure out how to I was consumed every thought that I had. So for me the exceptional Life is flipping that on its head. And it's that I work far less than I worked before, make a hell of a lot more money, the quality of my life is I spend my time doing exactly what I want to be doing. And like, John, we've talked about this, you know, as far as think it'd be it. It's like, I'm all about, like, I measure my days, and how much I laugh, and how joyful like my days are. And so for me, that's the exceptional life. When I analyze my day and say, Did I laugh as much as I wanted to today? And then I'm adjusting things. And so for me, that's the exceptional life. It's the quality of my life, its joy, its laughter. And so much of that comes from, you know, the freedom that netting over a million dollars a year brings, you know, and again, I know, like we were talking about just from a materialistic standpoint, but I want people to flip this because this is a question I have for you, John, we were talking about where that group of employees are not up employees group of clients are where there seemed to be bunched in that 300 to 400,000. I think that's one of the false beliefs people have, they create these ceilings for themselves, like, oh, netting a million dollars a year, that just seems like pie in the sky, you know? So they're creating these limitations, and these set these perceived limitations for themselves. And I'm interested in your thoughts a little bit on that, and why you think that some people are challenged with getting over that. And whether part of that is a mindset, you know, where because, for me, I didn't have that mindset. For me, it was just like, Oh, I knew that I could get there someday. I just was trying to figure out how the heck to do it, you know what I mean?

John Mitchell:

Right? Well, you know, you hit on it, this, this false place, as we were talking off air a little while ago, you know, I see that the fundamental problem that that I had, and you had when I met you, was, we had this fundamental belief that we controlled our daily actions. And, you know, like, like, you pointed out to me not too long ago, which I thought was pretty astute. You said, I wasn't thinking about my daily actions, I was just grinding away. And, and I'm, like, you know, I'm just grinding away, and all I know to do is put my head down and, and work. Well, you know, when, when I was really that pivotal moment when, when I was, you know, digging into thinking grow rich, and I think you heard my story that, you know, my mom was dying. And, and that ended up you know, because I felt like, I was letting my bomb down by not creating more of an exceptional life for myself, after all the advantages she gave me, that was like rocket fuel to, for me to go deeper into thinking grow rich than anybody on the planet, in my opinion. And, and, you know, but I remember one night was so powerful, and this was, you know, I'd come back from the hospital and, and I started to read a little thinking grow rich, and I ended up, you know, putting the book down and, and going to bed and, and, but I'm still feel thinking about the book. And, and I remember, you know, just thinking about it, and all of a sudden, I see the false belief I have that, that I control my daily actions. Now, I thought about daily actions, at least, at this point, from reading, thinking Grow Rich, because clearly, your daily actions determine your success in each area of your life, the cumulative effect of your daily actions, so I was already around that. But But I remember laying in bed that night, and going, you know, I don't control my daily actions. And that's a problem. I thought I did. You know, my autopilot controls my daily actions. And, and, you know, I control my intentions, but my daily actions are controlled by my autopilot. And I remember, like, I just popped out of bed, you know, or I sat up in bed. I'm like, this is an epiphany moment, right here. This is, this may be the moment that changes everything. And now that I look back on it, that was the moment that changed everything, because that made the big domino fall that, oh, I have operated for, you know, 25 years on this idea that I control my daily actions. And that's the fundamental false belief and once I sort of got over that and saw that my autopilot can throws my daily agents and then learn how to influence my autopilot, that, that changed everything. And I think and that ultimately created the spectacular, exceptional life that I feel so blessed to have today. And, and you know, one of the things that, for me, that is probably the most important thing is this level of control I feel over my life. You know, before when I was earning six figures a year, and there was this disconnect between my efforts and results, I didn't feel like I had control over my life. And I, I saw that I was playing the game of life at about 20% of my potential. But once I took control of my autopilot and and really became an identity changed from from being someone where my autopilot controlled me to be controlling my autopilot. Once Once I got on the other side of that the just the power and the pride and the sense of control of playing the game live at 100%. That's the joy. To me, that's the essence of the extension line for me.

Kelly Hatfield:

Yeah, no, I love that I love this idea of again, when I go back to time, it's like making the most of your life, you know, like squeezing as much as you can out of this experience. Because you know, depending on what you believe you get one go round. Yeah, right.

John Mitchell:

I think that's been proven. Not sure about that. Let me, let me check the science that I think that's been proven.

Kelly Hatfield:

But I think it is it's about just, if you've got one shot, you know what I mean? It's like, getting the most joy out of it. And contributing I what you just said, John really resonated with me too, because I remember, you know, laying in bed at night and just beating myself up like, Man, I know, I have so much more to offer, why am I not doing the things that I know, I need to be doing? You know what I mean? Why aren't I, you know, you know, living into the best version of myself. So when we tie this back to what the exceptional life means it's this process of becoming who you need to be right? To net set. Like, it's the process, the evolution that took place with me as a person that created the exceptional life, if that makes any sense.

John Mitchell:

Well, and you know, I don't know if you remember this, but I, I remember it, because, you know, I was telling the story of of, you know, popping up in bed and realizing that I didn't control my daily actions. I remember when, when I started taught this to you. And we were we'd done your podcast, and we're just getting to know each other. And, and I remember asking you Do you control your your daily actions? And and you know, you I could tell you thought it was a strange question. But you said, Well, yeah, sure I do. And then you had that same epiphany, once I sort of explained it to you and showed you that 95% of your daily actions are unconscious, and prove that to you rather than just sort of asking you to is to accept it. That same light bulb went off with you. And and you know, that's what's so fun with all our clients is you see the light bulb go off, right there at the inception. Once they, they get this we talk through it. And they see that they've had a false belief their whole time, about how they create success, whether it's in their career, or their marriage or their, their health, and what a powerful thing it is when they get the right belief, which is their autopilot controls their life. And they also see that it hasn't been their fault that they haven't been successful in the past. They just you know, they didn't get it. I didn't get it. You didn't get it until we learn this. But, boy, once you get it, the exceptional life appears that it

Kelly Hatfield:

no is 100% Yeah, I remember you just said something where it's not your fault. And I remember I even said this to you. I was relieved. Like, because I've been beating myself up for so long. Like why can't I keep a Why can't I consistently do these things that I know I need to do? Well then once you understand the science, how your autopilot works, but 95% of your thoughts are so it's like oh, well then all I need to do is this. Yeah, okay, I'll do that. Right. Here we are. You know, we're talking about the exceptional life and and we get to have this conversation with each other about what this means to us? And what a cool thing?

John Mitchell:

Right? Well, and you know, it's so funny, as we talked about think it'd be it, you know, as we, as we evolved on this used to weed, we talk about, here's the science and here's how you apply the science and, and all that, because we're enamored with it. And it's so been so life changing. People don't care about that. I know, what they care about, and what what really moves them is realizing that they've been operating with a false belief that they control their daily actions, and because at some level, they know that daily actions creates the success they have. But once they get over that false belief, everything changes. And, you know, to wrap this up, and we ought to do a whole episode on this, but I'm going to just hit a couple of things in terms of what we believe, boy, you know, I know, from my standpoint, I believe in personal responsibility, you know, taking responsibility for, for creating the life we want, because life is precious as my foundational belief that life is precious, that you need to be planted at 100% Not, not 20% that you absolutely need to have control of it, you need to be focused on what moves the needle. I'm against victimhood, and there's so many people that want to play the victim. I don't know those, like I said, we do a whole episode on this probably well, but but anything you want to add to that, in terms of No,

Kelly Hatfield:

I mean, you said it brilliantly. No, I think that, that, you know, just this, you know, the the foundational, like, just have a personal accountability, that you are, where you are, that's 100% on you, and you like so we all make choices, and you can make a new choice right now, you know, and, you know, so, so I think that I love this idea of personal accountability, and you know, just not playing the victim. And, you know, that blame game and everything. It's like, nope,

John Mitchell:

right, right. Yeah. So the real, the real takeaway is choose the exceptional life. And so men, well said, All right, So if you want more go to or email Kelly or myself at or So until next time, we'll see you.